Couples/Relationship Counseling

Transform your relationship by transforming yourself.

Sustainable change in relationship counseling requires a deep, personal commitment from each participant: a willingness to recognize and address one’s own work, as well as a dedication to honesty, self-awareness, and accountability.

I am active and transparent in what I see happening in the relationship dynamics. I encourage clients to keep an open mind and heart so they can reconnect with themselves and each other.

Couples seek therapy for many different reasons. People vary in their needs for intimacy and space, and these differences can create conflict, trust issues, and disconnection. Many times, communication has broken down in some way and couples are stuck in unresolved, repetitive arguments. 

Our work together can be helpful for:

  • Learning healthy emotional self-regulation

  • Discussing emotional topics in a new way (finances, sexual issues, etc.)

  • Navigating significant decisions

  • Rekindling satisfying intimacy

  • Pre-marital guidance

  • Deciding whether or not to stay in the partnership

  • Recovering from infidelity and other betrayals

  • Effective co-parenting, including after separation

  • Navigating amicable divorce/uncoupling

  • Making or changing core agreements

  • Maintenance as desired — keeping things in check

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I use a systemic and integrative approach that addresses each person’s priorities, personal responsibilities, and goals within the context of their relationship. Collaboratively, we’ll explore and discuss core values and desires, identify how unhealthy patterns and problems have been created, and practice how to differentiate and communicate more effectively. Homework and practice strategies (for each individual, as well as the couple) are often given.

Intensives/immersions facilitate deeper change & effective movement on stuck issues, and help invite creativity and playfulness into the partnership, in order to experience long-lasting growth.

 

Couples intensives are typically 90-min to two hours. Longer intensives, half-day immersions, or a full day or weekend immersion can also be scheduled as desired.
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“Caroline has been a huge help and encourages us to think about things in a different way. She consistently challenges us to communicate more effectively and go even deeper in our relationship. We've learned how to find empathy, how to get to the root of issues, and how to get out of our heads & into our hearts when we have disagreements. We both believe we have a very solid, loving marriage in large part because of our commitment to the hard work and conversations we've had in counseling with Caroline. We recommend her highly!”

— B.K. & S.K., Vermont

“We came to Caroline in what felt like a last ditch effort to save our marriage.  Working with Caroline, we realized that a successful marriage isn’t just when two people fall in love and stay in love. It’s when two people continue to commit to their growth, respect each other, and find a way to fall back in love with each other in a new way.... we are forever grateful to Caroline for giving us the tools we needed to find our way back to each other.”

— H.C. and A.C., Vermont